A Thin Line Between Friendship and Love

Most of us have many kinds of friends:

• Friends that are always with us everyday through thick and thin
• Friends that are very close to us
  
• Friends that we barely see but still have constant communication with
  
• Friends that we barely see and communicate with
• Friends that are pretenders and usually backstabbers
  
• Friends that are User-Friendly (those who are friends only when they need something)
  

Nevertheless they are part of our everyday lives and I think it would be really unhealthy if you have no friends at all. It is part of our daily routine to communicate with them, because this is what binds us all. Of course all of us need each other one way or another. And this need is what keeps us together.

Sometimes there is a thin line between "friendship" and love. Some guys usually use friendship to get a girls attention, trust and then make a go for it. Some barely notices that their friendship is developing into something deeper, more committed. This phenomena is somethings good, sometimes bad. It can destroy current relationships from either parties concerned or develop into a closer good relationship between the two.

In my experience I once had a very close friend. We have been close since her OJT days at the office and she was under my guidance. We could talk, laugh, talk and laugh all the time. She's pretty, intelligent and fun to be with. Our friendship did not end when she left after her OJT ended. We email each other and sometimes chat with each other if she's available at school. This continued until she already started working. We even had a call for each other "doggie" because both of us like dogs and we treat each other as pets. On special occasions such as birthdays, Christmas, I usually include her in my gifts list because I love giving things to my close friends.

This friendship really meant something to me. We talked about plenty of things, usually about work almost any kind of topic. I really love having that constant communication with her. It really brights up my day when I see her email with the title: doggie!!.

I might have harboured feelings of love towards her but I think that love was more of a big-brother love. However, it is commonly mistaken for the relationship type of love and that is where I put a limit to myself since both of us currently have our own relationships. I don't want to be selfish to jeopardize both.

Everything changed when her boy friend suddenly started to check her emails and read our past conversations. Because of this they almost broke up (but did not thank God). I guess I was the culprit because I was staying to close to her and a misinterpretation is quite inevitable. After that incident we barely text or emailed each other. At first it was hard to accept the fact that she will have to distance herself to me. But later I realized that it was all for the best. I just hope someday we can be close again and this time I will be care full.